Honesty….Loyalty….Trust….Respect
Theses four very important things are necessary in any relationship. Meaning with friendships, family, dating, or work/business. Without these four essentials none of your relationships can move forward and will not flourish. Don’t get me wrong there are a ton of other factors that can sink a relationship. But these four things are like the foundation of any and all relationships. I personally feel like these days many people and relationships lack these essentials. People fail to realize these work hand and hand. Some think you can have one without the other (Which you can) but at a point you’ll eventually need each one of these factors equally working in order for the relationship to be healthy, happy, and flourish.
What is honesty?
Honesty is being able to tell the truth, being straightforward, and not lying, cheating, thieving, etc. If you give honesty, you get honesty. Honesty is the step stone for the other three factors. You can’t trust lies and there is no loyalty in lies. It is also hard and personally for me impossible to respect a liar.
What is loyalty?
Loyalty is having and showing complete and constant faithfulness and support to someone. You choose to be loyal and stay loyal to a person. Loyalty also is developed through building other pieces of your relationships. A relationship with true loyalty consist of people who will stand with you through it all. You also shouldn’t have to explain or defend yourself to a person if loyalty is within the relationship.
What is trust?
I can’t stress enough about how VERY important trust is. Trust is built over a period of time between you and a person. Trust is one of the hardest things to gain and the easiest thing to lose. You have to trust people to be honest with you, you have to trust them to respect you, you have to trust people with your secrets, fears, hopes, dreams, and much more. So many people (Me included) find it so hard to trust others. This is because sometimes we think we know someone and they turn out different. I’d take being friendless and single any day before I allow someone I can’t completely trust to come into my life and personal space. Trust is needed on both sides to truly have solid relationships.
What is respect?
Respect pretty much consist of all the above. Respect is admiration shown for a person that you can trust, be honest with, and is loyal. Respect has to be earned. You earn respect through your actions. Like the cliche but truthful saying “Actions speak louder than words.” You have to be respectful to get respect. Another huge part of respect is knowing and recognizing your own worth. Then once you respect yourself and others, you’ll build strong and lasting relationships.
I particularly liked your comments on “trust;” this can certainly send a sane person toward insanity when this is broken. You can only build “trust” with “trust!” However, this is not possible without a higher being (in my case God himself); there is that thing we all know about: which is “love.” As I heard a mother in my ole church say, “Love will find a way;” certainly asserts that “trust” can be built again if “love” resides in the heart, and of course the individual who broke the “trust” is committed to building. Therefore I submit “trust” in Him so that you can “trust” others! Blessings!
~TRL~
Thanks for the advice! I completely understand and agree with everything you said.